Monday, 14 October 2019

Published Monday, October 14, 2019 with 0 comment

Not Your Responsibility Sports Parents!

Being responsible sports parents is perhaps the best way to support your budding athlete. But there’s a fine line between being responsible and overly protective. Parents who cross the line actually may cause problems for their child and can also lead to end of the child’s sports career.

The question is, where do you draw the line? While it can be can be subjective, here’s a general rule for identifying where you are responsible as a sports parent and where you are not.

Things you are responsible for as sports parents

As a sports parent, it is your duty to give the child the best possible exposure, be it finding the right team, the best you can afford, providing for the apt sports gear, taking care of dietary requirements, getting logistics arranged for practice and the matches and of course, helping with financial requirements.

As a parent, one important responsibility is to provide a warm, friendly and conducive environment for your child be it for sports or for school. A child who does not have parents’ support is insecure which can lead to a whole lot of behavioural and psychological problems. A child who has supportive and understanding parents, is confident, willing to take risks and more likely to succeed as a student and as an athlete. Buying your child the best possible equipment and exposure cannot replace the support and security that the kid gets from her parents and like we said, a conducive home environment.

Things you are not responsible for as sports parents

You are not responsible for your child’s success – As harsh as it may sound, but you not responsible for your child’s performance. Like we said, you can provide the best of the exposure and be supportive also, but this does not guarantee success. Trying to take the burden of your child’s performance, you not only complicate your child’s life, but make things hard for yourself as well. You try to solve things for them, take control of their lives, fix their problems and get in the way all along.

By accepting that performance is your child’s problem, you give space and freedom to the child to act, learn and grow. They learn to fight their own battles, discover their core strengths, learn what they can change and what they can’t, and figure it out on their own.

Along with your love and support, space is what your children need.

Another thing you need to accept as a parent is, there are no quick fixes. Do not try and iron out the creases, there’s a process and the child needs to evolve though it. The child needs to struggle and break their cocoon from inside, you will only damage it by trying to help out.

For instance, a very promising athlete, but your child’s performance suddenly dipped. You rush to engage a new club, a new coach, bring in any quick fix you can think of in desperation. And it’s natural too, since you are investing in your child’s future. But think about this, we as adults have our lows and highs, our phases, so would the kids. At this time all your child requires assurance from you that she can tell you if something is bothering her, she can count on you and you are there. Rest she will figure out on her own. Let her. Kids, especially teenagers may not express it as often, but they value your love and support and it gives them inner strength. That is best thing a child can get from a parent.



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