Have you lately been to
game of your child where some yelling parent irritated the whole crowd? Or even
worse, you were the one yelling and later are embarrassed at your behavior, or
your kid is? It happens to a lot of parents. But that’s not what the youth
sports is supposed to make of you. Youth sports is supposed to be enriching
participation for proud parents and a positive learning experience for the kid.
Soft traits that the child picks up in youth sports training are as important
as game skills.Similarly, being involved and being able to contribute towards
your child’s life learning, can be a delightful opportunity for the parent. So,
every time you get carried away with your emotions, remind yourself, you could
be ruining the whole ‘positive game experience for her and for yourself too.
Here are a few tips to
help you control your emotional outbursts and have a positive sports
experience, for you and your child too.
Think of the embarrassment you might be causing
There’s a difference
between cheering and yelling. While the first may motivate the kid, the former
might disturb, or cause embarrassment, or both. This emotion goes a long way. 11-year-old
Ben got so disturbed by his father’s yelling on the stands that he developed social
anxiety disorder, and required counseling to come out of it. Think of all those
times when we were publically embarrassed by our parents’ behavior; it’s the
same feeling or worse if your kid is sensitive.
Be an example you’d want your child to learn from
Children take after
their parents. Take it with a pinch of salt. Everything, from your behavior to
your reaction to situations to your take on people or your stance in life, your
kids are picking up cues from all of it. While most kids pick up the ‘Dos’ in
life, some smart kids pick up the ‘Don’ts’ in life leaning from their parents’
behavior, and in both the situations, the parent is at a loss. So, while you
are so dedicated to your kid’s future, you might just want to do it right.
You, your kid and the coach, all are in the same team
Never put the entire
blame on the coach if something goes wrong or you are not satisfied with
something, definitely not in front of the child. First thing you need to bear
in mind is that you and coach are both on the same team and are focusing on the
same goal. There can be differences of opinion or suggestions, which can be
talked and settled, but playing a blame game is really bad idea. If you lose
faith on the coach, and if the kid loses faith on the coach, most certainly the
whole objective of sports training will be a waste.
Create happy memories around games
Irrespective if the game
was a loss or a win, cheer your kid, tell them you are so proud of her and you
are happy she’s learning so much. Go out for an ice-cream or spend some fun
time on your way back from the game. This will take the pressure off your kid’s
head, and you’ll have a great bonding together. Good memories will create
positive energy which will reflect in the kid’s performance.
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