Friday, 12 May 2017

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How to Deal With Your Child’s Aggression


Does your teen talk back, yell, scream or even get physically violent at times? Does your tween often throw tantrums, behave inappropriately or answer rudely when spoken to? Has your child’s conduct started hampering her social life?

Unfortunately, this is a common problem that a lot of parents face. Most parents accept it as a compulsive phase that kids go through during adolescence, or as natural trait of boldness or confidence that comes innately with younger generation. But if you see symptoms of aggression in your child, do not ignore it. It’s a problem that needs to be addressed to, as and when it occurs. If a child is aggressive and disrespectful, chances are that this trait will only get worse with time.

Your child’s aggression is symptom of a problem and not the actual problem itself. Hence the first step towards dealing with your child’s extreme behavior is understanding the problem that might be causing it. Is there something at home that’s bothering your child? Is there a dominant spouse situation or insecurity that’s bothering her? Is she being bullied in school? Is she under peer pressure? Does she have inferiority complex? There can be so many other possibilities. Instead of assuming and thinking that you know the problem, observe and investigate to find out the exact root cause. Do not rule out the possibility of medical or sensory problems that might case aggression. Get your child tested.

Once you’ve established the reason, and while you start working on the cause of the problem, you will still have to deal with the kid’s anger. Here’s what you can do on a regular basis to curb aggression and bouts of anger in your child.

  • Give attention. Many a times the child might be feeling ignored, and many a times not. In either of the cases, spending some quality time with the kid would help. Kids tend to get insecure in stress situations, and some warm parent-child time would ease out a lot of creases in her life. Although, you will have to judge, how and when would the kid needs that sort of attention. Don’t force yourself on her, that’ll just worsen your kid’s situation.
  • Work with your child to nailing the problem. Don’t try and manage the problem all on your own, involve your child. Let her know that you are genuinely working towards understanding what’s bothering her. When your child is ready to trust you, she will slowly open up. Let her get to the comfort zone.
  • Do not combat anger with anger. When the kid’s in a moment of rage, do not try and control it with shouting, yelling or hitting the child. you would not only aggravate the situation but also set a wrong example.
  • Understand triggers and work on them. Find out what triggers anger in the kid. For instance, Sara gets really angry when she’s mocked upon. Even though, Sara’s mom cannot control the outside environment, she has asked Sara to ignore when someone says something rude, look in the other direction and count until ten before reacting. This settles the immediate outburst and allows Sara for some cool-down time. Similarly, you will have to understand what is triggering the aggression and find a way that works best for your kid. You will have to do this with your child’s help.





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