Being a sports parent is as is a high-commitment job; you follow tight schedules, commit to the extra spending's, keep control on lifestyle, diet, fitness routine and do so much more. And if you have a teenager athlete, all these commitments not just increase almost tenfolds, but come with a whole lot of drama and fuss.
Most parents usually are not prepared for this and keep parenting a little kid. Result - problems and a lot of melodrama. And it’s not just the parent that suffers, the child suffers too, with the worst hurt being the athlete in your child. Here are a few tips for parents who are going through this rather bumpy ride and wish better, or for parents who wish to brace themselves before getting into it.
- Be the parent she needs
Most parents feel that they can be the best coach or the best friend their child will have, and get into the role very seriously. But the bitter truth is that your child doe not need you to be a coach or a friend, they need you to be a parent. Provide support, understanding and the care a parent can give. You can be everything your child needs by being a good parent.
- There’ll be confusion, mistakes and weak moments, accept it!
Your teenage kid is going through a lot, physically, mentally and emotionally, perhaps more than you can imagine. Losing focus, having a weak moment, losing interest, losing confidence, all of these will happen to your child. These things happen to all children, and if your child is going through any of these symptoms, be glad, your kid is going through the normal course of growing up. Don’t raise the bar of your expectations so high that the kid just finds it easier to give up.
- Teach your child the art of losing
When one loses, there’s denial, anger and frustration associated to it. You should teach your child how to lose gracefully by teaching them the art of acceptance, learning and moving on gracefully. This will be one of the biggest life lessons that your kid will learn.
- It’s about fun and learning for your child, more than it’s for scholarship for college education
Have aspirations but don’t get obsessed with your child’s youth sports career. It’s important that your child gets the essential life lessons that playing youth sports gets. Getting to carried away with the career that youth sports can bring can create unnecessary pressure on the child ruining her interest in the game. On the other hand, if the child has that passion for something, never try and mellow it down. For, passion can get excellence that will drag success to your kids feet, but running after success is like running after mirage, you can never quiet get to it.